We put in a data protection request and freedom of Information request and the school did not get the information to us. We have had to contact the Independent commissioners office and they helped to get the ball rolling. After 12 letters we got some information, just this week. It has been a proper shock to the system. I have discovered that Stardust had 96 physical outbursts over a period of 10 months. This is loads and I did not know. I did not know it was so bad. I don’t understand why no one talked to me as Stardust’s mum. I would have had him out of that door long before I did. There are only a handful of incident reports but one was over the fact he put his coat on back to front. They insisted he turned it round. He kicked off. The effort he has to put in to put a coat on independently is enormous, he has and definitely had a very weak shoulder girdle. If they had taken time to get to know Stardust they would know that he feels sick to the bottom of his stomach when he has to co-ordinate his limbs and get dressed. They didn’t bother to get to know him. It is inexcusable. He had a 1:1, the staff/pupil ratio was brilliant and it’s a Special School..... I know that most of the staff that worked with him have children of their own. How would they feel? what would they think? He is a person, he is my baby and he is the one with special needs not them. I just wish they could get the heartache that bangs inside me every time I think of them holding onto him. They can’t and they won’t because they don’t understand. Empathy is beyond them. I am now at a crossroads and I am going to take the right path.
I could spend my life dwelling on the incompetence, the abusive behaviour that Stardust endured or I could and I will take this conscious step right now and make sure I work through it all very quickly and put it to rest. I have to help him do the same. We have to get through the treacle and close the door on it all. I have no time, he has no time – I have to look after Stardust and I have to make sure that a positive comes out of this. I have so much to give and Stardust needs me at my best. I am going to keep writing our school business plan (it is half done) and I am going to set up something people can look at and think – ‘that’s it that’s how all children should be treated’
Eventually people and organisations are discovered for what they really are. I think it’s called Karma....it will catch up with them eventually.